Phoebe's love language is definitely touch. It's not good enough in her little mind to be right next to you, she needs to be ON you.
You might say that every baby is this way, by very nature, but I would disagree. I could lay Lucy or Asher or Baby Man down anywhere and they'd generally fall right to sleep (after roughly 7 minutes of "cry it out"). I've been told more than once that I've had three very easy babies in a row.
I think I have.
I'm not saying that Phoebe is hard. I'm just saying that she's different! I think it was J.J. who commented that one of her sons just came out different than her other two. He just needed her more; needed to be closer, etc., and she adapted to that. That really clicked with me, as I see it with Fifi.
From the minute she was born she was taking everything in. Looking around, taking stock. I remember my mom saying that day, "It's like she wants to involve herself in everything, right from the start!"
It's so true. She does, and she doesn't want to mess with pesky sleep. I mean, who needs sleep, when there are things to giggle at and mothers to barf on?
It's all clicking. To her, sleeping next to me is a definite comfort. My other kids didn't really care one way or another.
You gals are right. If it works for us, we should keep doing it. I'm not going to regret snuggling her extra bits, am I now.
She's worth it:
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well with a face like hers she can get away with it all too :) how could you say no?
Jackson was the same way! Keep doing what you are doing...it's obviously working! :-)
She is adorable, I would cuddle her too. Some day she will be grown and you will ask why you didn't cuddle more, rest in a quiet room, or just gaze into her precious eyes. Gather the moments and treasure them. She is your gift.
oh she is darling!! I couldn't say no to that face either. I'm beginning to think Charlotte's love language is touch or maybe quality time as well- I feel like I've been nursing her every hour the last couple days and she's only content when I'm talking to her, cuddling her, holding her, or nursing her...
they won't be this little forever huh? Guess we better enjoy it while we can- soon they will be teenagers...
Oh- I forgot to tell you- have you tried warming up her crib with a rice sock before you lay her down? If we lay Charlotte in a cold bed she wakes right up, but the rice sock heated up makes the bed warm when we lie her down and she doesn't wake up.
Both of my girls are like that (one is 10, the other is 1). The ten year old still likes to snuggle. Neither of them are easy to sleep with, once they fall asleep, they flop around everywhere, so they sleep in their own beds, but share a room. I rocked the oldest one until she was nearly 3, then snuggled in bed with her until she fell asleep. The baby loves to be rocked and snuggle. Both of them were sooo alert from the start, staring at everything, needing to see, but wanting to be held and snuggled at the same time. I love it. I have never been able to CIO. Just my nature and also because I know it wouldn't work with either of the girls, they would just get more and more worked up and never sleep. Plus they are very sensitive and would be angry, I think. I just hope they still want to sit in the chair and snuggle with me when they are seniors. She is a dolly, by the way!
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