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| not our actual furnace guy, though this guy looks like a cross between a presidential candidate and Burt Bacharach. He also looks like he needs to find a toilet soon. |
We all expect Thanksgiving to be relaxing, don't we? I mean, the vacation itself.
We plan on just "hanging out", but then we put too many expectations on ourselves and it turns into a free-for-all of guilt and "I should get this done, do that, go there."
Life is a lot more freeing when you take your hands off of the handlebars and just let things happen.
We're all along for the ride. Bet you didn't know that.
We were just starting to build up our "emergency fund" again after paying off Scott's student loans (Yay, debt-free!).
The furnace didn't get the memo and decided to break. There went our fund. When I say, "We don't have any money!" I really mean it!
That takes us off the hook for buying lots of Christmas presents for everyone this year. Personalized calendars all around!
This morning I got a call from a guy who called back and wanted to give us a bid for his services. We had already decided on the first guy. The second guy said, "Well, I would have loved to give you a bid." I apologized and said I hadn't heard back from him, and he said, "So be it." and hung up in my ear.
I got off the phone and started crying. ??!! When will I stop being a people-pleaser? Dude, GET A GRIP. He sounded like a jerk anyway. I called my mom and asked her why, at 32 years of age, I am still a people-pleaser. She said, "because you have a soft heart."
OK.
I'm working on becoming comfortable with being less, doing less, expecting less out of others and myself. Instead of worrying whether or not someone likes me, or if my house was clean enough or if so-and-so thinks this or that, I'm working more on just not giving a flying flapper-doodle. You don't like me? Great. Take a number!
What are you working on right now?
7 comments:
I think people in those situations hone in on people pleasers, and push their guilt buttons on purpose. I'm currently shopping for cars, and I see that with some salesman. I'm working on being firm and not trying to over explain, to just say "That doesn't work for me" and leave it at that. Oh boy, do you have to have a hard shell when going to dealerships. In other areas of my life, I am working on finding a balance between compassion and standing up for myself. Or maybe it's learning how to do both at once.
I am working on being grateful for where God has me right now...not when we have more money, not just when things are going well, etc.
Love you, friend! Sending a "gift from the kitchen" to you today! :)
I am working on continuing an attitude of gratitude, and keeping a thankful heart no matter what.
A furnace is something to be thankful for right? even if you have to pay for it.
I am thankful for every day...not just my days with less pain or no pain...I'm thankful for every day that God still allows me to be Mother to my kids, wife to my hubby, and whatever titles I bear to the many other people I love in my life.
Today, specifically, I'm thankful I actually got a kind, sincere, helpful IRS guy. An audit was not what I expected this Thanksgiving, but the guy was so kind and gave me such good news that I had to go to the bathroom afterwards to cry happy tears and thank God for going before me in that situation. Bathroom because my kids don't understand 'happy tears' and with the pain...they see too many of the other! ha!
I'm gonna work on not giving a flapper-doodle anymore either! :) LOVE IT!
lol, i take it all personally too...some people are just built that way. :)
It's like Murphy's Law - isn't it? Every time you get a bit ahead *something* happens.
BTW, do you remember that silly romance novel I sent you a long time ago? The sequel just got published in ebook form.... just in case you need a little escape. :-)
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